Am I too selfish? Am I too greedy? - By whose standards, dare I ask...

This blogpost was inspired by a comment I read in a Facebook group. This is it:

'Today I was handed a severance offer. I have been in this company for over 5 years and I am over 40. I want to find something more flexible, in a better location, and to have a chance to take on a leadership role.

A big part of me feels that if I take this offer, I will never find another job as good - it's work from home, with benefits, free health care, and decent enough pay. Although it sucks the soul out of me at this point, keeps me up at night and I can't travel when I want or live where I want. 

Am I being greedy? Should I just be thankful for what I have? What would you do guys?"

Being thankful and grateful for what we have is certainly a good starting point, no doubt about that. The state of being appreciative of what we have elevates our vibration as we focus on abundance and achievements rather than lack.

However, being grateful doesn't mean settling down for what is the current state of affairs and not wanting to change our circumstances. Quite the opposite is actually true. From a place of abundance and gratitude, we can create an even better life - for ourselves and for our loved ones. In fact, I'd go even further and say that we awe it to ourselves (and our loved ones) because we are more than capable of changing things around. 

This brings me to the topic of "judgement". 

Too often we do things out of fear of being judged. 

"Too rude!"

"Too selfish!"

"Too loud!"

"Too quiet!" and so on... 

But have you asked yourself, "Why? By whose standards am I too...[fill in the adjective]...?"

Imagine these two identical seeds that came form the same plant and ended up in two different environments through no action of their own, mind you. (This is true story - form my allotment!) One thrived and bloomed into beautiful flowers while the other one was left in the paper packet... Does the second seed now think that its brother was a selfish, greedy, inconsiderate show-off because it thrived and produced seeds of its own? Or does the first plant feel it needs to slow down and stop ripening its fruits not to hurt the feelings of his less fortunate brother?

Our judgements of ourselves are our biggest hindrance to evolving into the thriving humans we were born to be. We are our own worse enemy, especially if we grew up surrounded by "judgement" of what was or wasn't considered "socially acceptable behaviour". This is our biggest and most dangerous virus, our low level of self-respect, worthiness and self-love. As a result, we rush around like headless chickens, doing what we are told to do, felling like we are expected to feel, chasing other people's appraisal and forgetting our own navigation system which, by now, may be even malfunctioning due to years of constant neglect.

This brings to mind the story of the captain on a boat who found himself in a foggy night at sea, without a map. Luckily for him, he saw a glimmering light in the distance and shouted through his megaphone (or maybe he was luckier and his radio was still working), 

"Hey, you are heading in my direction, we will crash!" 

From the darkness, the reply came, 

"Yes, you're right! You're heading in my direction, better change your course immediately!" 

The Captain, with his ego as big as the boat, shouted back in rage, 

"Who do you think you are, telling me to change my direction?! I am a big frigate with lots of guns and torpedoes! You change your course right now!" 

Do you think his attitude changed when he heard the answer,

"Sorry, can't do that! I'm a light house."

Photo by ArtHouse Studio from Pexels

Lots of us behave like this Captain, motivated by status and the expectations of others, while suppressing our real feelings and avoiding our pain points. I was no different, I used to be like that myself. I believed life happened to me, events were either bad or good luck over which I had no control and I was expected to just do my best at driving my boat (do you drive a boat or do you navigate it, whatever the verb is...), forgetting about dreams of a better life for fear of being labelled greedy and selfish. Now, after colliding head-on with two lighthouses so far in my boat-driving adventure called life, I can honestly say this:

• Whatever one thinks about anything - they are free to think it as much as they want and it has nothing to do with me.
  
  
• My own happiness and other people's judgements and opinions of me are two separate measures. I can do something about the former and the latter is none of my business.
  
  
• I am living my life as a decent human being, treating others the way they want to be treated.
  
  
• I am worthy of love and happiness.
  
  
• I deserve to be fulfilled form what I do.
  
  
• I trust my inner navigation system to take my boat to safe waters, always.  

This is how I drive my boat now and I love watching the tomato plants on my allotment as they produce in peace and harmony their yummy fruit and seeds. 

Photo by Eva Elijas from Pexels

Guilt, Resentment and Shame — Three powerful brothers who keep us tied to the past!

From the day we are born we are learning about the world - what is good and what is bad, how to act so we are accepted and what not to do to avoid being rejected. Our self-esteem has been shaped and programmed by daily experiences in which we were either praised for our actions or criticized for them, lovingly shown how to modify our behaviors, or harshly and coldly punished and judged.

Shame is a perception we learned from childhood, and it is the feeling that everything about us is wrong. This affects our self-esteem in a profound way and makes us feel inadequate and incapable all throughout our life.

If the environment in which we grew up was characterized by many moments of “tough” love, aggressive words and constant criticism about our way of being, or by the total absence of interest on the part of our parents, we create a self-image based on limiting beliefs about being inadequate, inferior, insufficient and undeserving, i.e. ashamed of who we are. As we grow older, we become more sensitive to what feels like criticism, even if it isn’t, causing us to feel rejected by others, reaffirming the perception of self-loathing and worthlessness. The consequence of feeling this deep “shame” of who we are, may be the origin of behavioral patterns of self-aggression and self-punishment, where we become violent, depressed or turn to alcohol or drugs.

As a consequence of feeling this deep shame, throughout the various stages of our human experience, it is highly likely that we have had moments when we have hurt other people or ourselves with our actions or words or when we have felt attacked, betrayed or abandoned. The stories related to each of these events generate additional feelings of guilt and resentment, which, of course remain deeply stored at the subconscious level of mind, as powerful imprints with which we continue to re-create similar situations in the present and we feel powerless due to the perception of not having a way to change these patterns or letting go of the resentment that poisons us daily.

So we now we carry guilt as well as all of the previous shame and resentment. Guilt for what we did or said. We continue to feed that resentment daily as we create more instances of the same - people come to our life that we perceive to have hurt us. And, while we remain tied to the past, we are the victim of each of those events and we find ourselves repeating the same patterns in a circle that seems to have no end.

Now here is the good news!

It is possible to free ourselves from these 3 powerful brothers.

While we cannot change the events of the past, we can change how we perceive ourselves, how we perceive the environment in which we grew up, how we perceive our parents, as well as each person with whom we have interacted during those events. As Rob Williams, the Originator of PSYCH-K® likes to say, “With PSYCH-K®, it’s never too late to have a functional childhood!”.

The bridge to re-signify the past and create a more harmonious, balanced and compassionate present is to access the subconscious mind and give it new information about how we perceive what happened.

For example, consider how your life would change if you could have these new beliefs or perceptions at the subconscious level of mind:

• Believe that you are a source of peace and joy for yourself and for everyone around you (Principle of Harmony) instead of sustaining the addiction to creating situations of pain as a way of self-punishment

• Accept responsibility for the choices you have made in your life and for the results (Principle of Cause and Effect) instead of feeding the guilt and resentment that keep you in the victim mode

• Act consciously, choosing how to treat yourself and others, with the clarity that we are all connected (Principle of Interconnectedness) instead of sustaining the reactive or aggressive patterns learned in childhood.

• Find harmony, even in difficult situations (Principle of Harmony) to recover your personal power and re-signify the past based on forgiveness and gratitude (at the subconscious level of mind instead of trying to forgive, which actually leads you to not forget!)

• Honor and respect the feelings of others as well as yours (Principle of Interconnectedness) to understand that the people you consider have hurt you or who you have hurt in the past, acted from what they knew at that time. This gives you the power to learn the lessons, grow and be grateful and as a result, stop being the victim and free them from your mind.

If you are interested in learning how to go from being a victim of the past to being an architect of your daily destiny, get in touch!

Having Self Worth issues? - You have the solution within you

School, parents, society, everyone forces upon us an 'interpretation' of what our self-worth and self-image should be. How we see ourselves and how much we value ourselves is being heavily dictated by our environment. In our current state of society there is a constant and powerful bombarding of conditioning and solidifying (propaganda-type) of what our perception of ourselves should be: advertising, media, news, shop windows, government rules and regulations, how other people look, speak and behave.

Pause for a moment to reflect on the amount of precious time and energy we spend entertaining the need to meet the criteria that others have imposed... And we do this blindly, lead by the subconscious fear of being judged and shamed etc. This fear of being judged (of which we are not even aware most of the time) makes us go through life looking to satisfy the cultural criteria about how we should look or behave, and there seems to always be a need for something else, nothing is ever good enough, and consequently we are never really happy.

Let´s consider some questions:

– Does being thin and wrinkle-free improve the perception about your body?

– Does wearing certain clothes and accessories boost your self-esteem?

– Does having a new car or a big house make you feel better?

Whereas the answer might be yes for these examples, the point is to find out what is the starting point, what is it that truly motivates and drives our behavior.  Do we act based on a loving and accepting self-image and as a consequence we create a life of wellbeing or do we believe our joy and happiness depend on how we look, how much money we have or the things we can buy with it, as well as on the external/social approval we receive based on these? Are we coming from a happy loving space or do these desires fulfil some neediness and fear of lack?

Mother Nature is a beautiful source of inspiration with very simple and effective examples on how easy it is to create a joyful way of being: a lavender plant would not dream of changing its aroma to smell better in the eyes of another lavender plant, a cow would not think of losing weight to please a partner, and certainly you’ve never seen a dolphin want a speedboat to go faster in the water.

These examples could serve as an invitation for us to realize that over the course of our life we have involuntarily learned and stored in our subconscious mind a series of perceptions, behaviors, attitudes and habits from the people and environment around us. And because they are subconscious, first we are unaware of them and second, they create our life. We downloaded these while we were very young and could not properly discern. In other words, we are actually a series of programs that others have believed to be right for us, and now we run them automatically. Certainly, many of these programs are useful and functional for our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being, while others are at the root of our daily limitations, barriers and difficulties.

Here is a practical experiment, in order to recognize if you are running automatic programs that condition your self-image. Let´s think of the last time you bought new clothes, a new phone, or a new tv, and ask yourself some of these questions:

• Did your self-image improve? Did your life improve in significant ways? Are you satisfied with the time and energy you had to put into obtaining this? Did others change their perception about you?

If the answer was “not really”… then you know that the “need” for these items is a program, a way to fulfill our lack of self-worth through material things.

Here is how Mother Nature can provide us with the perfect antidotes to the lack of self-esteem, the distorted perception of ourselves and the feeling of not being enough, along with some of the Principles that make it such a wonderful example of sustainable success.

• Adaptability: recognizing when a change is necessary for us and being able to adapt in a natural and effortless way. 

• Balance: the ability to use the masculine and feminine aspects of your life to achieve a balanced view of things, including the time devoted to work and to your personal life. 

• More is not always better: being able to recognize that you already have enough and that you can make better choices by selecting quality products that last over time.

If you are ready to take charge of your life and change the subconscious programs that keep you from seeing yourself with the eyes of “I am enough” and “I love myself”, so that you can enter a new level of expanded awareness and sustainable wellbeing, you can consider choosing PSYCH-K® as a way to internalize millions of years of Mother Nature´s wisdom.

Why doTERRA? - Pursue What's Pure

They say that becoming a mother is a defining point in the life of a woman. This certainly was very true about me! From the moment I became a mum my entire focus was on the little life that was growing in front of my eyes. “Is this the right thing to do? What if I make a mistake? I want to care for my child’s health properly… ” were some of the thoughts that kept coming to me. Motherhood put me on the path of a truly remarkable journey to self discovery through holistic natural healthcare to a totally new view of us humans as spiritual beings.

I wanted to stay home and be a mum but I had to leave my baby at nursery in order to go to work. Life was difficult. Hard work, long hours spent teaching other people’s children how to speak English. So I started an MLM business to support my income. It didn’t work. I used the products for my family and myself and we had great benefits but I made no money out of it.

The leaders of this MLM company were all successful and smiling doctors with huge patient following so who was I to compete with them?! I was not medically trained so I could not repeat what they did in this business. Furthermore, I did not have many friends as I had recently moved to this town. My family was making jokes about my meticulous use of the supplements and I had to constantly explain why nutrition was so important.

Very soon it became obvious that this MLM company was not going to do much for me financially. The teaching job was only paying a small salary and I desperately wanted to have a bit more financial freedom such as being able to afford a new (second-hand) car or a better flat. I kept looking…and life continued to be difficult. Looking back, it’s obvious how my programs of limitation and scarcity were the reason for all my financial and other struggles…

Twenty odd years later, I had gradually forgotten that my desires existed. I was a mum entirely devoted to her family. Homeopathy, reiki, energy healing and herbal medicine were my ways of dealing with ailments. I identified myself with being a wife and a home-maker who kept the house clean, the children well looked-after and well-behaved, delicious dinner cooked from scratch every day and all the other trimmings that come with a model super-woman who looks after the others but not herself.

This is when the unthinkable happened - my marriage broke down…

I found myself in the deepest darkness of my life... Financial survival was my biggest demon. A single parent with a single income, half of which paid on the rent, no wonder I reached rock bottom. I wanted to die… But I had my children to look after…

Becoming a mother is a defining moment in a woman’s life, they say. So is divorce, I say.

Through the pain of a broken heart, through the doubts and fears, through the confusion and limiting beliefs of worthlessness, hopelessness, lack of confidence and all the rest, some glimmers of hope twinkled occasionally, increasingly, in my darkness-dominated existence. Through holistic practices I did survive to tell this story today and once I picked myself up after lots of intensive mindset work, life started to look bright again. I began paying attention to my own desires, my wishes and I experienced for the first time what it felt like to truly love myself, unconditionally.

Money blocks were being released as well so space was created for new opportunities to appear… This is when doTERRA came into my life, attracted by my love for holistic natural health support. I welcomed it open-heartedly and it brought me a financial opportunity beyond compare! 

I have been using doTERRA oils and supplements (as well as I get paid for sharing my experience) for nearly 3 years now and still get amazed at how quickly these oils support my health and the health of my loved ones.

The most amazing transformation so far has been on emotional level. Because of the essential oils I have been able to forgive, to move on, to delete the left-over traces of resentment, to let go of worry, to transform anxiety, release anger and to fill my soul with light, to embrace freedom and to live fully. My next goal is to leave my teaching job and to focus entirely on helping people achieve the same transformation in their life by spreading the knowledge about these amazing doTERRA oils and the business opportunity that they carry.

It is possible to heal the world, with the right tools, one drop at a time! If you are someone like me, or if my story resonates with you, I'd love to get in touch.

My 16 Major Transformations - all done using PSYCH-K® in less than a year

You are probably thinking "What on Earth is PSYCH-K®?" so let me start with clarifying that question.

PSYCH-K® is a process of identifying the dis-empowering beliefs that one has (about themselves, about the world around, etc) and re-writing them with empowering ones for success, for happiness etc. During a PSYCH-K® balancing process, we communicate with the subconscious mind where these limiting beliefs are stored and we gently replace them with beliefs that serve our goals.

I have written more about PSYCH-K® in previous posts on this blog so feel free to explore further. Alternatively, you can find out more in the book written by the Originator, Rob Williams (link is at the side of the blog).

Now let me go on to my list of 21 Major Transformations I've had since I became a PSYCH-K® facilitator almost a year ago. But before that, here is a brief description of what I used to be:

The woman I was a year ago used to put up a facade of a super successful and confident person but on the inside, I was in fact very shy, I worried about the smallest of issues, I went out of my way to please others and sought their approval on a daily basis, etc... You can imagine the picture.

Needless to say I am none of the above any more! Thanks Goodness for that! Here are my biggest transformations.

1. Improved confidence in every aspect of my life.

2. Overcame deep depression after my divorce.

3. Dealt with anxiety and can now control any minor stress issues.

4. Dealt with overwhelm caused by the amount of workload with regards to my teaching job.

5. Sorted my money worries. My budget is still limited (yet) but I am not worrying sick about making ends meet like I used to. I now know that I am in control of my money flow and it is just a matter of some more time before I would generate more income for my family.

6. I now put my needs first and look after myself easily.

7. I was able to fix my daughter's cracked laptop LCD screen, despite having no prior computer knowledge whatsoever. I just did the PSYCH-K® balancing process every step of the way and as a result, we have a working computer at a minimal price.

8. I now trust my inner judgement and intuition about most things. I seem to just "know" things.

9. Improved productivity and focus.

10. Cleared my severe allergies - I could not eat a crumb of blue cheese without turning into what looks like a puffer fish with a swollen face and slits for eyes and I also had hay fever which is now completely gone.

11. I wrote an eBook. I have just finished the second revised edition of my book too.

12. With regards to the business, I dealt with major visibility issues.

13. Confident at decision making ( I made my own website and I maintain it myself. I know exactly what I want it to be like).

14. Was able to transform the learning abilities of two children (one of them is my daughter who used to struggle with maths but now enjoys the subject and has become very motivated).

15. Improved my relationship with my teenage children.

16. Major mind shift from a victim mentality to "I am in control of my own life" mindset.

A lot more can be written about each and every one of these 16 aspects of my new ME. However, it will take a long time to elaborate here so it seems a better idea to take each one of them and turn them into separate posts, some time in the next couple of weeks.

I also want to thank Darren from ProBlogger.com for setting up this challenge and I hope to be able to complete his 7 tasks even though I am going on holiday and it might turn quite difficult with access to internet etc.

Until tomorrow, when the next challenge arrives, maybe you can tell me about YOUR transformations in life, big or small. I would love to hear and read about them.

The Best Insurance

If I were a biker, I wouldn't be getting on a motorbike again unless I have sorted my subconscious beliefs!

It might seem odd to you that I am talking about motorbikes on blog about overcoming learning blocks but there is a very good reason why I am "bothered" to write on this topic.

Think about it... There has been so much media coverage about accidents involving motorbikes that I started thinking how I could make a difference... I thought that the bikers who have had an accident and have got injured in it would need some beliefs put in their subconscious mind such as "I heal easily and effortlessly" or "My body is strong and recovers fast" or "I am pain-free" etc.

And then it occurred to me! Why go about and help people AFTER they have had a problem!!! Isn't it easier to do the PREVENTION instead. If bikers have the right sets of beliefs to begin with, they will less likely get into trouble in the first place. No drama, no pain, no grief...

So, here are some belief statements that I suggest bikers should check and see if they believe them or not. I mean "believe" subconsciously, i.e. have them as running software in the subconscious mind.

The way we test whether our subconscious mind believes a certain statement is by saying the statement outloud, with feeling and conviction, and immediately muscle test to see if the body's response is strong or weak. If you are not familiar with muscle testing, check this other blog post I have done on the subject of muscle testing. I have given a quick explanation of the process there.

So, here are (in reverse order of importance) the top 7 belief statements a biker should have in order to be safe on the road and avoid a hospital treatment:

7. I know my limits and observe my safety and the safety of other.
6. I enjoy riding my bike responsibly.
5. I am safe when I am riding my motor-bike on the road.
4. Other drivers can see me well on the road.
3. I am a capable and responsible biker.
2. I love myself.
1. I am worthy.

I have noticed that "Self-worth" is a main issue for most of us nowadays and that is the reason I have given that statement the utmost priority. If a person doesn't love him/herself, chances are they will be constantly attracting bad accidents. Making sure the belief is strong in the subconscious mind will reduce the chances of those happening.

Of course, I have only just scratched on the surface with this post.

Please do your homework before you take on the road with your bikes!

I look forward to hearing your comments.

Conversations with the Subconscious Mind or How to Do Muscle Testing with a Partner

Muscle Testing is also called Applied Kinesiology. More than 30 years ago, George Goodheart, D.C., the founder of Applied Kinesiology (AP), introduced muscle testing in the USA. AK has been used primarily by chiropractors to discover physical imbalances in the human energy system.

However, muscle testing (MT) is also an easy and effective way to communicate directly with the subconscious mind for purposes of discovering self-sabotaging beliefs.

The subconscious mind controls the autonomic nervous system and is responsible for our automatic physical and neurological functions. For example, our bodies move because the subconscious mind directs a complex set of electrical signals to just the right muscles at just the right time to perform a task, such as reaching for an object. The strength of the electrical signal from the brain determines the strength of the response in the muscles of the body.

One theory about how MT works is that the electrical signal is dramatically affected by the thoughts being contemplated in the mind. When the mind is holding a stressful thought, an electrical conflict is created in the brain and the signal strength to the body is reduced, resulting in a weakened muscle response. The same thing happens when a person makes a statement with which the subconscious mind disagrees. The conflict between the conscious and the subconscious mind results in a weakened response in the muscles of the body. A lie detector functions in a much similar way - detecting physical changes resulting from mental processes.

Consequently, MT can be used to determine what thoughts are stressful to the body, as well as what ideas (beliefs) are supported or not supported at a subconscious level.

To begin MT, one needs to find a partner. Here is a short tutorial on how to do MT with a partner.

Start by deciding which arm to use.

1. Stand to the side of your partner, facing each other, so that you are looking over your partner's shoulder.

2. The person being tested extends one arm out to the side, parallel to the floor. The tester keeps one hand resting lightly on the extended arm between the wrist and elbow (where most people wear a watch or a bracelet). Place the other hand on the shoulder for stability. If one arm gets tired during the testing process, simply switch arms.

3. The person being tested keeps his/her body relaxed, head facing forward, eyes open, and focused down. Be sure to keep chin parallel to the floor while focusing the eyes in a downward direction.

4. With the arm extended from the side, have the person being tested think of something enjoyable. Then apply gentle, steady pressure downwards for about 2 sec or until you feel the muscle either "let go" or "lock in place". Note the response as either strong or weak.

5. Repeat the process with something unpleasant (ask partner to imagine something unpleasant and then muscle test).

6. Repeat with saying "My name is ...[real name]" and MT. After that do "My name is ...[other name]" and MT. The responses should be strong for the real name and weak for the other name.

7. The last round will be with the partner repeating the word YES over and over in their mind and then same with the word NO and MT at the same time.

Now that you know what the STRONG and WEAK responses of the body are, you can test any other belief statement. A strong response means the subconscious mind holds the respective belief and a weak response means there is a clash and the subconscious mind does not believe the statement.

So, how about checking the MT response to statements such as:

"I respect myself"
"I am a loving and worthwhile person"
"I do my best and my best is good enough"

Be creative.
Think of your own statements.

Let me know how you get on with this new skill.

The Power of Perceptions

I was having a conversation lately with a friend of mine and I remembered my childhood. This chat made me acutely aware of the importance that our PERCEPTIONS of things play in our lives. Let me give you a little bit of context first.

I grew up in a small village where people walked everywhere. Everything was, and still is, in close proximity and we rarely got in the car to go places unless we had to go to the nearest town...
As the elder sibling, I remember being constantly sent around on errands, mainly shopping ones. We were lucky to have a couple of shops in the village, including our own bakery, a grocery store, a clothes shop and a hardware store. I'm not counting the hairdresser's salon or the pub because they had no concern for me as I was never involved with them: my mum used to cut my hair and I was never allowed in the pub...

To cut a long story short, I had this PERCEPTION in my mind that going to the village center to do some shopping for my mum or for our elderly neighbour (she struggled to walk) was a HUGE problem... It involved going up a HUGE hill while I was trying to remember what I was sent for, repeating in my head what I needed to buy and what I was going to say to the shop keeper, over and over again, so I won't forget or make a mistake,... I dreaded this experience. I hated that hill.

I thought that hill was really big and high. It was a great source of pleasure in the winter time when it snowed. Because it was such a big hill we had super great fun skiing and sledging down it. But when I had to go up it in order to go to school or to the shops, my perception of it was completely different - I associated it with hard work and I thought it was enormous.. It also made me create associations and beliefs in my mind that life is hard, that I must struggle to be loved, that as I grow older I wont be able to walk far etc... big impact that fortunately I am now able to address and heal.

Fast Forward 20 + years... I went home after a long absence during which my parents had moved house and did not need to climb the hill to go to the shops any more. I remembered the big hill and purposefully went to see it... The shock and the wonder! That hill that I had perceived as HUGE and enormous was in deed nothing more than a slight elevation of the road! Now my perception of it was entirely different. The size of the hill did not bother me in the least, it did not seem to be connected to hard work at all and it certainly seemed tiny compared to other hills I had climbed in my life. It was the same hill but my PERCEPTION of it was 100% different.

This might sound like a trivial story of a little girl growing up and finding her adult power but if you think about it from a more universal, metaphorical aspect, it is a lesson about perceptions shaping our reality. Most of the time children have a different perceptions of the world compared to adults. These perceptions (although different) are as much real and truthful to them as the perceptions we hold as adults. The perceptions we have (and it is the same with children) shape the reality and become our TRUTH. They even change our biology...

The big moral of the story comes to two things really.
1. Loving as my parents were (and still are), they had no clue that my perception of the hill was bothering me to such a great degree. Otherwise they would have done something about it.
2. You are now starting to understand this better and have a chance to do something about your child's perceptions of the world and improve it. For this, I offer my support and commitment to be of service.

I am looking forward to having a chat.

Invest Time in You

As devoted parents, most of us get lost in our daily parental duties... We get lost to such a degree that our personality disperses..., we forget about having our own dreams, goals and so on...

As a young parent, I used to be exactly like that - I knew what my son's dreams were, what my husband's dreams were, what my daughter wanted in life, but I had no idea what MY SOUL wanted from life...


I don't want you to get lost...


Are you taking action every day to awaken the potential that is within in you? Of being a great parent, a worthy mum or dad?

Some of us do it by reading a great self-help book or going to an amazing workshop. However, afterwards, we get back into our busy lives where we can just barely cope with the time constraints dealing with our day to day routines and “problems”.


It is time for a CHANGE!

Life change requires commitment and sometimes time too, but when we take the time to change the subconscious patterns that are holding us back, we actually save time and effort in reaching our goals. Taking the time for subconscious change is an investment that in the end will set us free of many things which currently waste our energy and time!

So, if you are having difficulty taking the time to change your life using the affirmations and tools you have learned, then consider starting out with affirmations like:“I am committed to myself and have all the time I need to make my dreams come true.”
“I am enthusiastic about using creating powerful change daily.”
“I am worthy of taking care of my own needs.”
“There is always enough time for me to become authentic to who I really am.”
“I follow through with my commitments, especially the commitments to myself.”
“It is OK to make self-improvement my priority and I do.”

What are some other beliefs that will assist you in investing time in YOU?
Create more empowering beliefs and change them with your favorite method.